Going Home Again: A Guide for College Students
You may be familiar with the saying “you can’t go home again.” If you’re going home on weekends in college, or during the winter break, you may discover that living at home isn’t quite like it used to be — or that you aren’t quite the same resident. Even if it’s temporary, adjusting to being back home requires a thoughtful approach. Here are some survival tips to help you make the transition smoothly.
Communicate and Manage Expectations
One of the first steps in adjusting to home life is establishing open communication with your family. Discuss your schedules, expectations, plans, and any potential areas of conflict, such as curfews or household chores. This can help prevent misunderstandings and set the stage for a peaceful coexistence.
Maintain Independence
Being back home can sometimes feel like trying to put on outgrown clothing: you’re much more independent than you used to be, but your parents may not anticipate the specific ways in which this is the case. In addition to managing expectations in advance, consider setting physical activity goals, cooking your own meals, or setting your own daily schedule to maintain your sense of autonomy.
Flexibility Is Key
Your parents may unthinkingly revert to their old household rules from high school (such as curfews), and this can create tension. Your parents should be flexible, but you should respect their needs as well. Adapt to the household's current dynamics, such as keeping noise levels down during your parents’ sleeping hours. Consider helping out with meal preparation and other household tasks to ease the burden on your parents.
Create a Productivity Sanctuary
Finding a quiet space to focus on schoolwork can be challenging, especially if you’re sharing real estate with siblings, extended family, or other distractions. Designate a workspace away from common living areas for tasks that require concentration. This physical separation helps your body recognize that it's time to work.
Conflict Resolution
A few disputes may be inevitable, especially when everyone is adjusting to new living arrangements. Your parents and other family members may have their own challenges and concerns. If conflicts arise, try to understand your family members’ perspectives and find a compromise that benefits everyone.
Stay Focused on Long-Term Goals
Keep your eyes on your academic goals. If you’re struggling in college, consider using virtual campus resources like academic coaching or tutoring services. Even if you’re doing well academically, holiday breaks are an especially good time to consider your future after college. Consider talking to an academic advisor or career counselor about your options. Alternatively, there may be a community center or nonprofit organization near you that can help you stay on track. Bonus: your parents will be proud of your initiative as a responsible adult!
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